Woman, what do you want?
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What do you want?
If you were raised as woman in the patriarchy, it can be interestingly difficult to find words to express what your being wants. The chances are high that you were not encouraged or trained in showing up with what you want. You might even have chosen a survival strategy of sensing perfectly well, what other people want, and committing to their wants more than to the impulses of your own being. Consciously or unconsciously you have comitted more to being adaptive than to being yourself. This might have worked for a while, and served you in hiding, who you really are. The fact that you are reading this right now is a hint, that your being is ready for showing up with what you really want.
How come, this question is so hard to answer?
What do YOU want? If you don't know, how to answer this question, you might be looking in the wrong place. Being raised in a society that puts knowing and doing at its center, you are probably searching in your mind for the ansyer to this question, consulting your Mental Body. The mental body is great for thinking, analysing and planning stuff. This is, what it is made for. To find out, what YOU want, it is however necessary to consult your Emotional Body. With this body you feel Emotions and Feelings. Knowing what you want starts with feeling your Feelings. Your conscious Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy have precise, reliable, 24/7 information about what you want and what you don't want and they even deliver the energy to create what you want.
Acessing you conscious feelings is, however, an art that is still far too less tought in modern society. Most probably at some point in your life, you learned that feeling and expressing any feeling is too much, too loud, too embarrassing, too alive, too chaotic or for any other reason NOT OKAY. Maybe now is the time to make a new decision?
YOUR FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS ARE NO DESIGN ERROR
THEY ARE NEUTRAL ENERGY AND INFORMATION FOR YOU TO CREATE WHAT YOU WANT
You can practice using your feelings consciously
What else is possible?
Possibility Management offers initiatory processes to become adult and take Radical Responsibility for what you feel. The information and energy of your conscious Anger, Sadness, Fear and Joy are the rocket fuel for you to actually feel, what you want, to say, what you want and to create, what you want.
This needs practice.
A Dojo is a space for meeting others for a regular practice of skills.
In the "Woman, what do you want?" Practice Dojo we use each others presence and the human capacity to as questions, listen and hold space.
We practice asking the question right through all defense mechanisms, concepts, beliefs, stories into the other woman's being.
We keep asking "What do you want?" and navigating towards the feelings.
Even if you were not asked this question ever before.
It is never too late to start practicing to say, what you want.
There are no requirements (except watching the two short videos below).
Come as you are.
There are women in the Dojo, who have been exercising their skills of using their feelings consciously and holding space for others and women, who are completely new to the context of Possibility Management. We work as a team to make Learning, Evolution, Transformation and Healing happen.
You will be encouraged to use and raise your conscious Rage in this space to become access to what you want.
Your Sadness, Fear and Joy are also welcome, they hold valuable information about what is dear to you and what you want.
If you get stuck or experience emotional charge your spaceholder will accompany you in finding out, what the Emotional Healing Process (EHP) is, that is a doorway to heal the blocks from saying, what you want. You can then write down the sentence, that is this doorway in the back of your BEEP! Book and ask at the end of the Dojo, who would be spaceholder for you to go through this EHP.
Which "I"?
We all have parts. You also have parts, in fact once you pull out the plug that you used to keep your feelings shut down and raise your Conscious Anger to get access to what you want, you might be amazed what all your different Ego-States want!
Your Child Ego-State might just want to be heard or that someone senses, what you want, and fulfill it before you need to ask. Your Parent Ego-State might want to do the practice perfectly and leave a good impression. Your Gremlin Ego-State will not want to be here in the first place and might choose to attack your spaceholder because he wants to avoid being seen. It is part of the practice to let all Ego States express, what they want, without cenzoring yourself. The times, where you have to hide parts is over. The time where any want inside of you is not OK is over. We do encourage to take 2-3 Minutes after the practice to reflect with your spaceholder on which Ego-States showed up. To become more conscious how you feel, speak, move in each Ego-State. This is about getting conscious in order to have choice.
There is only one place from which you can actually start creating what you want here and now.
Your Adult Ego-State.
It turnes out that, in order to navigate towards your Adult Ego-State, you need clarity about what all your Ego-States want.
Join the Dojo
You are welcome to join any Monday.
Please watch the following two videos before you enter the space
so that we share common understanding about the context of the space and how it goes.
We meet
Mondays 8-9am CEST/CET
On Zoom
The space is open at 7:55am CEST/CET.
Doors close at 8:00am, please be on time.
You need a space in which you can be loud and undisturbed, a bucket, towel, tissues, water to drink and your BEEP! Book.
No registration needed.
Joining the Dojo is free of monetary cost.
Join here:
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/84641734983?pwd=XVgwSpWG4KrcfOIYSmuEoiei7NDoNW.1
Meeting-ID: 846 4173 4983
Kenncode: 715334
Watch this prior to joining the Wanting Practice Dojo
If you are considering to join the Dojo, I ask you to watch these two short videos prior to your joining. In them I set the context of the practice and talk about the jobs and challenges of the two roles in the practice.
1. The context of the Dojo and how it goes
2. The setting and time frame
More resources
If you are completely new to the context of Possibility Management you might also want to check out the following websites for more distinctions and context on basic inner navigation skills:
https://4feelings.mystrikingly.com/#essential-distinctions
https://4emotions.mystrikingly.com/
https://completionloop.mystrikingly.com/
https://holdspace.mystrikingly.com/
https://www.womenofearth.live/
https://rageclub.mystrikingly.com/
Please reach out if you have questions about joining the Dojo.
Thank you for being on this path!
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